Jim Rohn famously said, “You are the average of the 5 people you spent the most time with.” The first time I heard that famous quote, it made me think about my life in the present. If I am the average of the five people I see most, then who are they, and how have they lifted me up? Because I am married to the most kind and caring person I know, that must make me more kind and caring. Because I am in business with the most motivated person I know, as a result, I am more motivated. Given that we currently have peacefully drowsy baby, and I spend a lot of my time around him, maybe explains why I always want to take a nap!.
At second glance, it also made me think about the ways I can build other people up. If I view my most valuable strengths as my patience and attention to process, then I must be rubbing some of that acumen off on the people that I spend my time with. Knowing that fact motivates me to be even more attentive to my strengths, as they affect others and elevate their lives. Conversely, whether we like it or not, if we are the average, that means that our negative traits garner the opposite effect on our inner circle. Because I have a tendency to get grumpy, especially when I’ve done a bad job communicating, that must make other people around me more grumpy. At night, when I sit down to watch mind-numbing TV rather than reading a thought provoking book, my family will tend to do the same. If not right then, then over time they will, because they are among the people I spend the most time with.
So with a third look at this quote, I am inspired to seek out the masters of their crafts, because even if they are not among the five people I spend the most time with, the more time I spend with them, the more I will migrate toward their level of skill. As an educator, I have the privilege to spend my time around some of the very best principals in North Carolina through my work as a consultant, and I even convince some of them to sit down with me to share their trade secrets in our podcast, The Principal’s Office Podcast. If you think of it, every time you read a book, listen to a podcast, or watch a TED Talk with someone who is an expert in their field, they could become one of the five people you spend the most time with just for that day.
For the past two years, we have organized an event for our partners that, in my opinion, has brought the best exposure to content I have found. In the past, we have seen teachings on leadership from authors and thinkers like John Maxwell, Simon Sinek, Valorie Burton, Patrick Lencioni, and Liz Wiseman, and also from business field experts like Dan Cathy (Chick-Fil-A) and Kevin Turner (Microsoft). Reading their books has had a great effect on my attitude, motivation, and skills, but hearing them speak is an entirely different experience that speaks to my heart, and provides a refreshing renewal and re-energization.
Today, I would like to invite you to join us for the 2017 Live2Lead Simulcast event on October 6th at 8:30am at the Raleighwood Cinema Grill, in Raleigh, NC. The speaker lineup at this year’s event will once again feature John Maxwell, the number 1 business leadership expert in the world, as well as speaker and author Dave Ramsey, former Popeye’s Chicken CEO Cheryl Bachelder, and retired NFL player and philanthropist Warrick Dunn. I promise you that if put these four thinkers among the five people you spend your time around for this one day, you will hear a message that will propel you forward and result in a change in you that will last.
This blog was written by Geoff Gorski, Consultant at Leaders Building Leaders